As I’ve been easing back into the gym, I’ve realised how much it means to me to be able to take this step—especially because it’s been such a hurdle for so long. It may sound silly, but I think a lot of us, especially women, can feel really out of place in the gym.
For me, walking into a gym feels like entering a space where I don’t belong. It’s a mix of anxiety and self-consciousness, and it’s not helped by the fact that I’m often one of the only women there. Add on some awkward encounters with guys trying to chat me up during my workout or giving unsolicited advice, and it makes the whole experience even more overwhelming. Even when they mean well, it just adds to the stress.
The other day though, something interesting happened. I was using one of the machines when a guy came up to me and asked how many sets I had left. He asked if he could jump in when I was done. Normally, this would throw me off completely. I’d usually just give up the machine, avoid any confrontation, and quietly leave because, let's be real, I already feel anxious just being there.
But for the first time ever, I didn’t leave. I looked at him, said, "Sure, we can share the machine," and stayed. I did my sets, we shared the equipment, and I didn’t feel the need to disappear. It might sound like a small thing, but for me, it was huge.
The gym has always been an intimidating place for me, but this moment felt like a breakthrough. It was a small win, but it was a reminder that progress comes in all forms. I stayed in my space, stood my ground, and left feeling like I’d taken a big step toward owning my confidence in a place that used to make me feel so small.
So to anyone who’s struggling with gym anxiety or feeling out of place somewhere, remember—it’s okay to take small steps. Those steps add up. Be proud of every bit of progress, no matter how small it might seem. Your space is valid, and you have every right to feel confident in it. 💖
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